This was a transitional book for me. It was the first book in which I began to speak in the first person singular and include of my personal experience. Looking back, I wonder what took me so long! All I can do is put it down to my background as an academic!
My goal in writing this was to focus on the importance of friends in the spiritual journey. I did not intend it to be simply an introduction to spiritual direction – something that it is often judged to be. It may be that, but it is also a discussion of how marriages and other relationships of intimacy and trust hold unique transformational potential when they are allowed to develop into sacred friendships.